In case you don't know, my husband always has these crazy ideas running around through his head. The other night he thought, it be cool if we got an old school Chevy Beretta to save on miles on the truck. You see, the hubby and I each had a Beretta in high school. That was many moons ago and we were just friends. We even traded Berettas once for a day or so.
So, Matt's on his computer googling away looking for a Beretta. Although, he and I both knew there was absolutely no way we were getting one. Well I knew. He should have known.
He found one in the town he does drill in. To see all the info about the car you have to give them your email address and phone number. He did. He also put that it would be best to be contacted by email.
The next day he starts getting text messages from some asswipe at the dealership. They text back and forth. I guess Matt told him that he would be in this town for drill over the weekend. Matt said he wouldn't pay more than $1000 for it. The guy said there was no way that they could sell it for that price. Matt politely told him sorry we couldn't make a deal.
Then over the weekend while Matt was at drill, the asswipe starts texting him again. From what I gather, Matt was nice at first and again told him sorry that they couldn't make a deal. The guy keeps texting him. Matt told him, "Times must be tough if you are blowing up someone's phone over a $1500 car that's junk." (Apparently Matt drove by and looked at it and it was junk.)
The asswipe texts him back and says, "Times must be tough when you have to be 10% of a soldier."
At first Matt wanted to go find this asswipe and kick his ass. But he always calms down fairly easy. By the time he told me about it, he was over it.
This really pissed me off. Yes, my husband is in the Reserves now. But he is 5 times the soldier of anyone in his new unit. We won't even go there. He was deployed for 15 months and we were apart the first 9 months that we were married. He's made plenty of sacrifices. He's received more awards and ribbons than I can fit on scholarship, auxiliary, ect. applications. He did his thing. Now we are trying to move on. For someone to try to belittle my husband like that really gets under my skin.
I was going to call the dealership and talk to some kind of manager and tell them what went down. Matt told me not to. I call anyway and got the sales managers voice mail. I didn't leave a message and I didn't call back. I bought a car at this dealership before but I will NEVER buy another one there.
What do you think?
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10/06/2010
5/07/2010
Military Spouse Appreciation Day
I have posted this before but I want to post it again for my new followers. This is an essay I wrote for school. Happy Military Spouse Appreciation Day!
The Military Wife of Today
There have been many groups of women throughout the history of America that have helped to make this nation the land of the free and the home of the brave. Perhaps, the most overlooked group of influential women throughout the history of our nation has been military wives. As long as there has been military in our country there have been military wives. The military wife of today may have conveniences that make her role easier than ever before however, this does not make her life any more desirable. A military wife must be strong, patient, understanding, and loyal to her husband and her country. She will stop at nothing to make sure her husband is as comfortable and as happy as possible, even when he is thousands of miles away.
In the military, it is not the service member’s choice where they will be stationed or even if they will stay at that duty station throughout their career. A military wife will pack up all she owns to move to a place far away from her friends and family to be with her husband and will possibly do this several times. She will give up everything she knows to spend time with him. Or she will stay at home and wait for him if that is what they believe is best. She will patiently look forward to his return and never question her reasons for entering into such a marriage. Either way, she will do it whatever is best for her family’s future and do it with a smile. She understands that he has to do what he his told and she will never complain about it.
A military wife will deal with her husband’s deployment as a strong brave woman. She will stand next to him, smile, and take pictures with him on the day he leaves. She will never have felt as proud of him than on that day. She will soon fall apart and pick her self up again, repeatedly. A military wife will put her own needs aside to make sure that the package she is sending him makes it to the post office “today”. She will send a package on every birthday, holiday, and two or three between. She will become a professional at packing the comforts of home into an 11-inch by 8.5-inch by 5.5-inch box. She could also pack a bowling ball into the same box if her husband asked her to. The clerk at the post office becomes a friend rather than a stranger due her constantly picking up boxes and dropping off packages.
During deployment a military wife will also check her e-mail between ten and a hundred times a day, just to see if her husband has had time to send her a short message. He usually works between twelve and fifteen hours a day, in a desert and she understands when he doesn’t have time, but she continuously checks anyways. She will sleep with her phone by her side her every night. When a twelve-digit number is calling her phone at four in the morning she does not hesitate to answer because she knows it is her husband calling. She doesn’t get upset when after five minutes on the phone with him the call is disconnected. It can happen repeatedly and she is just happy to have heard his voice and know that he is alive and well.
While he is away a military wife will not hesitate to take over all shared responsibilities. She will mother, cook, clean, do the accounting, and take care of the cars, the lawn, and the pets. Also, she may possibly be working non-stop to help them with their future. She will stay very busy during the day and cry herself to sleep occasionally at night due to the pain missing him has caused. She will worry about him and patiently wait for him until he returns. A military wife will be proud that she can handle everything on her own while he fights for the country they both love.
Not all women are capable of dealing with everything that is involved with being a military wife. The women that can’t live the military life find out shortly after entering into it. Those who can, will do anything it takes to make their marriage stronger than they had ever dreamed of. They will ignore the things others will say such as, “How do you do it” or “My husband went to Europe once on business.” They know that standing behind their husband and his love for his country is their number one priority. A military wife would not change anything about her life except to have the man she loves home more often.
The Military Wife of Today
There have been many groups of women throughout the history of America that have helped to make this nation the land of the free and the home of the brave. Perhaps, the most overlooked group of influential women throughout the history of our nation has been military wives. As long as there has been military in our country there have been military wives. The military wife of today may have conveniences that make her role easier than ever before however, this does not make her life any more desirable. A military wife must be strong, patient, understanding, and loyal to her husband and her country. She will stop at nothing to make sure her husband is as comfortable and as happy as possible, even when he is thousands of miles away.
In the military, it is not the service member’s choice where they will be stationed or even if they will stay at that duty station throughout their career. A military wife will pack up all she owns to move to a place far away from her friends and family to be with her husband and will possibly do this several times. She will give up everything she knows to spend time with him. Or she will stay at home and wait for him if that is what they believe is best. She will patiently look forward to his return and never question her reasons for entering into such a marriage. Either way, she will do it whatever is best for her family’s future and do it with a smile. She understands that he has to do what he his told and she will never complain about it.
A military wife will deal with her husband’s deployment as a strong brave woman. She will stand next to him, smile, and take pictures with him on the day he leaves. She will never have felt as proud of him than on that day. She will soon fall apart and pick her self up again, repeatedly. A military wife will put her own needs aside to make sure that the package she is sending him makes it to the post office “today”. She will send a package on every birthday, holiday, and two or three between. She will become a professional at packing the comforts of home into an 11-inch by 8.5-inch by 5.5-inch box. She could also pack a bowling ball into the same box if her husband asked her to. The clerk at the post office becomes a friend rather than a stranger due her constantly picking up boxes and dropping off packages.
During deployment a military wife will also check her e-mail between ten and a hundred times a day, just to see if her husband has had time to send her a short message. He usually works between twelve and fifteen hours a day, in a desert and she understands when he doesn’t have time, but she continuously checks anyways. She will sleep with her phone by her side her every night. When a twelve-digit number is calling her phone at four in the morning she does not hesitate to answer because she knows it is her husband calling. She doesn’t get upset when after five minutes on the phone with him the call is disconnected. It can happen repeatedly and she is just happy to have heard his voice and know that he is alive and well.
While he is away a military wife will not hesitate to take over all shared responsibilities. She will mother, cook, clean, do the accounting, and take care of the cars, the lawn, and the pets. Also, she may possibly be working non-stop to help them with their future. She will stay very busy during the day and cry herself to sleep occasionally at night due to the pain missing him has caused. She will worry about him and patiently wait for him until he returns. A military wife will be proud that she can handle everything on her own while he fights for the country they both love.
Not all women are capable of dealing with everything that is involved with being a military wife. The women that can’t live the military life find out shortly after entering into it. Those who can, will do anything it takes to make their marriage stronger than they had ever dreamed of. They will ignore the things others will say such as, “How do you do it” or “My husband went to Europe once on business.” They know that standing behind their husband and his love for his country is their number one priority. A military wife would not change anything about her life except to have the man she loves home more often.
1/20/2010
No insurance
As far as a military spouse goes, I am not a professional. My husband joined the Reserves when his four years of active duty was up. We both thought that this would be a good transition into civilian life. By doing the Reserves, he will be getting a small check each month and still be able to take advantage of military health and life insurance.
His ETS date was September 29th. We have 180 days from this day to be on his active duty insurance (TAMP, no idea what that stands for). After that we have to sign up for Tri-Care Reserves. The 180 days is almost up so I got a hold of the one person that I have ever came in contact with who knows squat about the insurance. She is in the Reserves or Guard or something and she is the DEERS administrator. We met her when we got our ID cards in August. Sgt D. I will call her.
Sgt. D. tells me the website to go to and after numerous emails back and forth and me giving her my husbands SS # she informs me that when we got our Reserves ID's back in October that thedumbass guy at the Navy ID place had messed us up in the system. (It's closer town so we went there instead.) It was/is showing that he was never active duty and that we have no insurance. How nice?
Last week, I scanned and emailed her a copy of his DD214, which he basically has to have to do anything. I tried again last night to get us signed up for Tri-Care Reserves and it's still not working. I emailed her again this morning and she said their system was down. She's going to keep in contact with me and let me know when it is fixed.
I'm not too worried about it because the military is always screwing things up, nothing can be easy, and Sgt. D. told me that if something were to happen to either of us that we would be covered.
Hopefully someday soon we will have insurance again.
His ETS date was September 29th. We have 180 days from this day to be on his active duty insurance (TAMP, no idea what that stands for). After that we have to sign up for Tri-Care Reserves. The 180 days is almost up so I got a hold of the one person that I have ever came in contact with who knows squat about the insurance. She is in the Reserves or Guard or something and she is the DEERS administrator. We met her when we got our ID cards in August. Sgt D. I will call her.
Sgt. D. tells me the website to go to and after numerous emails back and forth and me giving her my husbands SS # she informs me that when we got our Reserves ID's back in October that the
Last week, I scanned and emailed her a copy of his DD214, which he basically has to have to do anything. I tried again last night to get us signed up for Tri-Care Reserves and it's still not working. I emailed her again this morning and she said their system was down. She's going to keep in contact with me and let me know when it is fixed.
I'm not too worried about it because the military is always screwing things up, nothing can be easy, and Sgt. D. told me that if something were to happen to either of us that we would be covered.
Hopefully someday soon we will have insurance again.
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